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Richard A. Dunstan: Self-Effacing Golfer

 

When Janet Gaffney was vacationing in England years ago, she followed a cousin's suggestion and looked up some of the cousin's friends. So she met Richard A. Dunstan for a drink, and he took her to a cricket match the next day. "I said to myself, `I really like him; he's a good man,' " Mrs. Dunstan said.

Six months later, she gave up her apartment, job and car to move to England. A year ago, they celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. "He used to bring me flowers," she said. "Not just on my birthday or Valentine's Day. Just because it was Friday, or whatever."

Mr. Dunstan, 54, a vice president at Aon Corporation and a father of two, kept himself fit. "He exercised so that he would live a long time &emdash; he wasn't really prepared for a building falling on him," she said. And he was a fine golfer.

"He would be very self-effacing with me," Mrs. Dunstan said. "He'd say, `Oh, it was an O.K. day,' I have since heard from all of his golfing buddies how he had a beautiful swing, a natural swing. He loved the game, he was a natural at it. And he would make par. And one fellow would say, `Was that par?' and Richard apparently would just grin."

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From "Profiles in Grief" of The New York Times
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