CATHERINE ELLEN CHIRLS: A Mother's
Presence
What
better tribute could a mother ask than a eulogy by her
eldest child? That was the send-off for Catherine Ellen
Chirls, at a memorial service in Brooklyn Heights, where
her family lived for 15 years until a recent move to
Princeton, N.J. The eulogy was delivered by 16- year-old
Nick Chirls, the country's No. 1 squash player in his age
group and his mother's partner each night when it was
time to wash the dishes.
Mrs. Chirls, 47, was a banker at eSpeed. Yet at the
end of her workday, and her long trip home, dinner was a
special time. Best of all, her son said, was the nightly
cleanup, his chore while his two younger siblings were
let off the hook. His mother did most of the work, while
the two talked about politics, sports, schoolwork. Once,
he wondered aloud what difference it made if he got an A
or a B. His mother's answer was "Never limit yourself,"
words that Nick said would inform the rest of his
life.
So will a sparrow that joined him at the lectern on
this most demanding of days. As Nick said the word
"mother" the first time, the bird lighted upon his head.
With hundreds of mourners gasping, the boy took the bird
in his hand, then set it free. "I'm not a religious
person," he said later. "I don't believe in things like
that. But there is no other explanation than that my
mother was with me."
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