Thomas R. Clark: The Family Hug
Lives On
Big
hugs!" is how Thomas R. Clark used to announce his
arrivals home to his wife, Lisa &emdash; a prelude to
wrapping his arms around her. When their only son,
Matthew, now 2, grew old enough to speak, he asked for a
piece of the action. "Me too," he'd squeal, smiling.
Soon, Mr. Clark changed his opening line to "Family
hugs!"
In the weeks after Matthew and the new arrival,
Whitney, a girl, now 7 months, were born, Mr. Clark
insisted on sleeping with them nuzzled up against his
chest.
Saturday mornings were set aside for Mr. Clark and
Matthew to breakfast together Father and son would pick
up cocoa and pastries at Dunkin' Donuts, then sit and
watch the trains pass through the Summit, N.J.,
station.
Mr. Clark walked home from that station every day,
returning from his job at Sandler O'Neill & Partners,
where he was an equity sales trader. In the summer, when
Matthew would play in front of the house, he could see
his smiling father from halfway down the block, so he
would run to him and jump into his arms.
This is how the family hug became a tradition with
variations.
"We still do it, the three of us," Mrs. Clark said,
"and my son still smiles. He loves it."
Mr. Clark would have been 38 in December 2001.
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