Colleen Deloughery: 'She Was Not
Shy'
Colleen
Deloughery's tiny backyard in Bayonne, N.J., was the
center of the galaxy. A pool took up most of it, leaving
barely enough space for a table and chairs. But no matter
how many friends and relatives showed up on weekends --
dozens, scores, nobody kept count -- they squeezed in
somehow: kids splashing, adults yakking, beer flowing,
luscious barbeque aromas swirling.
"There was always room for people," Patricia Marrese
said of her sister's universe. "I called it the magic
yard."
Open, spontaneous, generous, Mrs. Deloughery, 41,
laughed a lot, and said "I love you" too much. Perhaps
that's why everyone needed her so terribly -- not just
her husband, Jay, and her "shadows," Amanda, 8, and
Michael, 5, or her sister and five brothers, but the
menagerie of nieces, nephews and cousins, and the circus
of friends and co-workers at Aon (99th floor, 2 World
Trade Center).
Strangers too. Jeanette Krupinski, a friend, recalled
how Ms. Deloughery had stopped one day to talk to a
homeless teenage mother living with her baby on the
margins of a commuter station. "After that, she started
bringing things to the woman &emdash; a stroller, a
carrier, clothes, food, milk,"
Ms. Krupinski said. "She was not shy. She did
wonderful things."
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