SAREVE DUKAT: Living Life
Joyously
When
Sareve Dukat, at age 20, resolved to marry her high
school sweetheart, Joel Shapiro, there was no talking her
out of it -- not even by her mother, who thought she was
too young. The other day, Mr. Shapiro recalled his wife's
response to her mother this way: "She said, `You have a
choice: Either I will hide his socks when you come to
visit, or we will get married.'"
Ms. Dukat, 53, was an opinionated woman. She knew what
she liked and she went for it. She worshiped Mickey
Mantle. (Her husband's preference for Sandy Koufax did
not change her mind.) Early mornings, at least twice a
week, she walked her "aerobics walk" along Riverside
Park. On weekends, she walked along the beach at the
family's summer home on Long Beach, on Long Island,
solving "the problems of the world," her husband said.
She loved to travel. She went to every sports event she
could.
And not a week went by that she did not go to the
theater, usually with a colleague, Jon Schlissel. They
worked for the New York State Department of Taxation and
Finance, on the 87th floor of 2 World Trade Center.
As Mr. Shapiro put it, "She was committed to living
her life joyously."
She was also committed to him: they stayed married for
33 years. "She was and is my emotional core," Mr. Shapiro
said. "Now there's this void that someone described as a
toothache of the heart. It isn't always a sharp pain. But
it never goes away."
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